3 Tips for Writing Wedding Vows That Actually Sound Like You

The best vows aren't the most poetic. They're the most honest.

There is something incredibly moving about watching two people look into each other

eyes and promise to build a life together. One of my favourite moments during every

wedding ceremony is listening to a couple exchange the promises they've written for

one another. Some are funny. Some are beautifully romantic. Some make everyone

laugh through tears.

What they all have in common is this: they sound like them.

If you're staring at a blank page wondering where to begin, you're certainly not alone.

Writing your own vows can feel intimidating because you're trying to capture something

that's almost impossible to put into words.

The good news? Your vows don't need to be perfect. They simply need to sound like

you.

Here are three suggestions you might find helpful:

Write to Your Partner - Not to Your Guests

It's easy to imagine everyone watching you. Parents. Friends. Grandparents. That can

make you feel like you're writing a speech. You're not. You're making promises to one

person.

Imagine you're sitting together over coffee on a quiet Sunday morning. How would you

tell them why you love them? What would you want them to know if no one else was in

the room?

When you write from that place, your words become more genuine, more intimate, and

ultimately far more meaningful. The guests are simply lucky enough to witness the

moment.

Tell One Story Instead of Trying to Tell Your Whole Story

Many couples feel pressure to summarize their entire relationship, but you don't have to.

Instead, choose one moment.

Maybe it was your first date or the day you realized this

was your person. Maybe it was a difficult season that taught you what your relationship

was truly made of.

Specific moments create emotional connection in a way that general statements never

can.

Maybe instead of saying: "You've always supported me", you could share the moment

when you felt that support most deeply.

Stories help people feel your love—not just hear about it.

Promise More Than Forever

Most vows end with promises to love each other forever, which is beautiful.

But what does forever actually look like? What makes up forever?

The most memorable vows also include promises for ordinary days.

"I promise to make you coffee when you've had a rough week."

"I promise to remind you how capable you are when you forget."

"I promise to keep choosing curiosity over assumptions."

"I promise we'll never stop finding reasons to laugh."

Those are the promises that build a marriage. Grand declarations matter, but it's the

small daily commitments that make them real.

If you're writing your own vows, remember this: no one is judging your writing. Chances

are your partner isn't hoping for a masterpiece - they're hoping to hear you.

Speak from your heart. Be specific. Be honest. Leave room for emotion.

The most beautiful vows aren't remembered because they were perfectly written.

They're remembered because they were deeply felt. And that's more than enough.

Thinking about writing your own vows but not sure where to start?

As part of creating your ceremony, I'm always happy to offer guidance, prompts, and

encouragement to help you find the words that feel authentic to you. After all, your

love story deserves to be told your way.

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"Stories help people feel

your love, not just hear

about it."

Open Hearted Reflection

Before you write a single word, ask each other: "When did you first realize I was your person?".

Don't write anything down right away. Just listen to each other's answer. You may discover that the story you need for your vows has been there all along.